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Post by eliste on Dec 9, 2014 23:38:10 GMT
You people who have craft "rooms" make me sad. My fiance complained the other day that we need a bigger place because he'd really like to have a front room and bed rooms and... About the only place in our flat that isn't covered in crafting stuff is the bathroom, but give me time...
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Post by Lexxi on Dec 10, 2014 0:14:37 GMT
Did your fiance know you before you started quilting or after? If it's after, then tell him too bad, he knew you were a quilter when he started dating you I once started dating this guy who wanted me to move from Arizona to Tennessee. He was moving in September for school. I had a few annual programs going, some non-craft related, most block/row/something-of-the-month through quilt shops, so I said I would move in January, once everything was finished. He said no, it was then or never. Well... you don't ask a quilter to choose between you and quilting... so I was single again (and very okay with it). For all future guys, I always showed them all my quilting stuff, said this isn't going anywhere, decide now if you're not okay with it. When my now-ex moved in with me, I made sure he knew exactly how much space he was and wasn't getting. I had finished quilt tops and in-progress-but-temporarily-put-aside projects in the guest room, the quilt closet had raw materials, living room had in progress stuff, and quilting room had... more in progress stuff. I gave him the kitchen, master bedroom, and bathroom. That counts as sharing, right?
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Post by eliste on Dec 10, 2014 10:43:56 GMT
Did your fiance know you before you started quilting or after? If it's after, then tell him too bad, he knew you were a quilter when he started dating you I once started dating this guy who wanted me to move from Arizona to Tennessee. He was moving in September for school. I had a few annual programs going, some non-craft related, most block/row/something-of-the-month through quilt shops, so I said I would move in January, once everything was finished. He said no, it was then or never. Well... you don't ask a quilter to choose between you and quilting... so I was single again (and very okay with it). For all future guys, I always showed them all my quilting stuff, said this isn't going anywhere, decide now if you're not okay with it. When my now-ex moved in with me, I made sure he knew exactly how much space he was and wasn't getting. I had finished quilt tops and in-progress-but-temporarily-put-aside projects in the guest room, the quilt closet had raw materials, living room had in progress stuff, and quilting room had... more in progress stuff. I gave him the kitchen, master bedroom, and bathroom. That counts as sharing, right? That's a good question that I have no idea the answer of. He knew I could sew and would do so, but I didn't make my first quilt this side of the pond until after we were together already. He knew I was crafty, although I've no idea whether he realised quite the stuff that would come with it! I don't think he realised quite the "stash" issue and what it could be like. He mostly saw me do single projects that would be over and done with and have a finished product, but not really the excess. Then again, he's a miniature wargamer/painter and a major geek so he's got a ton of stuff too that does not help the "we live in a flat" issue. He took over all the shelving in the front room for that a long time before my stuff spilled out of "my" room and into the common one! Moving places when you're just dating is an odd thing. When I first was coming to Ireland (just for a year, mind you) my now-ex was like "well, you're either staying in the US or that's us done" despite the fact that we were already doing the long-distance thing. I find that a guy who isn't going to support me in whatever it is I want to do isn't worth my time anyway, so it all worked out in the end. And wow, you sound generous in your sharing! Mine doesn't get the kitchen. I mean, he could have it if he would keep it clean and start doing the cooking, but frankly that will a cold day in hell.
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Post by Lexxi on Dec 10, 2014 19:36:14 GMT
"He mostly saw me do single projects that would be over and done with and have a finished product, but not really the excess." -> Hahahah. Yeah, I can see non-craft exposed people being lulled into a false sense of security. "I find that a guy who isn't going to support me in whatever it is I want to do isn't worth my time anyway" -> Amen. We had been doing the long distance thing too. I feel like what it comes down to is that they're insecure in general or with the relationship or threatened by you having things you value more than them (definitely true with my guy) and that's why they get so crazy. Definitely not worth having around. "Mine doesn't get the kitchen. I mean, he could have it if he would keep it clean and start doing the cooking, but frankly that will a cold day in hell." Yeah... I was the slob of the 2 of us. So if he didn't clean, it took me a lot longer before I felt like it. I kept my quilt stuff immaculately organized. But, dirty dishes, those are so ... gross and boring
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Post by Toni on Dec 10, 2014 20:27:18 GMT
One of the requirements of marrying my husband and me moving in with him was I had to have a large enough space for all of my quilting stuff. He said ok and gave me the basement. All of his work out stuff went bye bye and his computer went to the living room.
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Post by Lexxi on Dec 10, 2014 23:00:22 GMT
One of the requirements of marrying my husband and me moving in with him was I had to have a large enough space for all of my quilting stuff. He said ok and gave me the basement. All of his work out stuff went bye bye and his computer went to the living room. That's how you know he's a keeper
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Post by Toni on Dec 10, 2014 23:14:47 GMT
Yeah. I figured he was a pretty good husband after that. I approached him two weeks ago and said, "So now I am working for my mother again I have a lot more freedom because I can do the work from anywhere. I am thinking of upping my conventions from 4 to 12 or 13. What do you think? It would take me away from the house a lot." He replied, "Do what you think best to support Craft Hackers."
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Post by eliste on Dec 11, 2014 9:55:53 GMT
Aww, you got a good one there, Toni! 12 or 13 makes me want to cry, but when its your business its different, I think. I get worn out just thinking about attending that many cons.
Lexxi- yeah, I can totally see how he might have been lulled into a false sense of security, but I don't really think it happened. I'm the messier of the two of us, by far, and seeing as we lived together before we dated he knew what he was getting into.
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Post by Yurtle on Dec 11, 2014 16:04:21 GMT
When the husband and I were looking for a new place, I insisted on a 3 bedroom specifically so I could get a craft room. That way we still had a guest room for friends and family. He has the entire basement to do whatever he wants with but it's so messy down there that he hardly ever uses it. Luckily, he's a programmer/gamer and can do most of his hobbying from a laptop and a chair. I'm also the messier of the two of us so it's really good that he's so supportive with my craft crap being EVERYWHERE in the house!
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Post by eliste on Dec 12, 2014 11:03:33 GMT
When the husband and I were looking for a new place, I insisted on a 3 bedroom specifically so I could get a craft room. That way we still had a guest room for friends and family. He has the entire basement to do whatever he wants with but it's so messy down there that he hardly ever uses it. Luckily, he's a programmer/gamer and can do most of his hobbying from a laptop and a chair. I'm also the messier of the two of us so it's really good that he's so supportive with my craft crap being EVERYWHERE in the house! Yeah, we've talked about when we move and it slowly crept up to probably needing 4 bedrooms if we are going to not have our guests sitting amongst our crafting stuff all the time. Either that, or a really huge attic. I have this idea of a giant attic where we go to craft that I really hope we can make happen.
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Post by Yurtle on Dec 12, 2014 14:19:27 GMT
For sure! My craft room is definitely not big enough! I'm tempted to switch rooms so my craft room goes where the guest room is now... Not sure if the guest room furniture would fit into the craft room though. Then again, if we make it too comfortable, people might stay!
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